If you listen hard enough, or really open your eyes and ears to the universe, there will always be signs for you to see or hear. Nothing more so that when it comes to people. We have all had those feelings that something is not quite right about a person or group of people.
No matter how much we want to trust someone the saying is true, if you give them enough rope they will hang themselves. So is it human nature to enjoy talking about others, or is it a human weakness, or some insecurity that we are not prepared to admit.
Let’s be honest, we all talk about others, but what we say, why we say it and to who we say it to are the questions we need to really consider. What drives us? Is it jealousy or a sense of superiority? Can we be trusted to keep a confidence?
Why do we judge others? Why can we not just accept others as they are and be happy for their good fortune. No one is perfect, but to criticise or judge others based on their age, religion, race, skin colour, height, weight or any other label we may choose to put on others says more about who we are and not the people we judge.
Whether a person is an old friend, a new acquaintance or somewhere in between I try not to judge them or put them into any specific group and if they are experiencing good fortune I am genuinely happy for them.
Yet I can’t say that others treat me the same, and although that is life, I still find it disconcerting and disappointing especially when it comes from someone I care about or consider a friend. Who can we really trust? Maybe only ourselves. For me I have always relied on a gut feeling when it comes to people, which to this day, has never actually been wrong. That is not to say I have always listened to my gut, in fact, there have been times when I have regretted not doing so.
I live from heart space, especially when it comes to dealing with people so I will most likely never change. When I care about a person I will do anything I can to help and support them, I will be happy for their success and good fortune, and support them when they are at their lowest, even when it is often to my own detriment.
Sadly that is not how many others behave and the universe has recently reminded me of that. Many people can and do present as a friend, but if we sit patiently and observe them, their true nature will eventually show. I have been judged because of my personal situation, my age, my race, or simply because someone else says something that is untrue. I have been called names by people I thought were friends, stabbed in the back, betrayed and gossiped about, by people I never thought would. Some do so even with a smile on their face or, when challenged, say it was a joke. I have also had people gossip to me, telling me what others have said, and to be honest I question their motives.
Again, my gut has been right on the mark, even though I really wanted to ignore it. But even though the name calling, the judgement, the gossiping, the backstabbing and criticism because of my age or personal situation was hurtful at first, I realise that all it did was remind me that not everyone lives by the same beliefs as I do and not all people can be trusted.
I am me, I will respect you and accept you the way you are. I may not always agree with how a person behaves, or what they say, but I will respect their right to do so and not judge them for it. A person’s age, job, personal situation, religion, culture or anything else is none of my business and I don’t care. I will continue to live from heart space, and help others when I can. I will love with all my heart and treat all with the respect they deserve, regardless of how they are to me.
I have the right to be happy and to live my life my way, I don’t owe anyone an explanation. And I will continue to Trust My Gut, but I will now make sure I actually listen more carefully to it. I suggest that if something doesn’t ‘feel’ right, then it truly isn’t. Your mind can lie to you, but your heart and gut never will.
Vicki Spencer 
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